We suggest you at least try to attend Al-Anon once or twice, if you answer yes to two or more questions.
Al-anon is a great support for family members. It is free, and it is worth going a few times and maybe trying different groups before you form an opinion.
1. Do you worry about how much someone drinks or uses?
2. Do you have money problems because of someone else’s drinking or using?
3. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else’s drinking or using?
4. Do you feel if the addicted one loved you, he or she would stop drinking or using to please you?
5. Do you blame the addicted loved one’s behavior on his or her companions?
6. Are plans frequently upset or canceled or meals delayed because of the addicted loved one?
7. Do you make threats, such as, “If you don’t stop drinking or using, I’ll leave you”?
8. Do you secretly try to smell the drinker’s breath?
9. Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking or using bout?
10. Have you been hurt or embarrassed by the addicted loved one’s behavior?
11. Are holidays or gatherings spoiled because of drinking or using?
12. Have you considered calling the police for help, for fear of abuse?
13. Do you search for hidden alcohol or drugs?
14. Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking or using?
15. Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety or shame?
16. Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to to protect the addicted loved one?
17. Do you think that if the addicted loved one would stop drinking or using, your other problems would be solved?
18. Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the addicted loved one?
19. Do you feel angry, confused, or depressed most of the time?
20. Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?
You may want to check out this free support http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/